What doesn't kill us, wounds us for sure

It has often been said that what doesn't kill us, makes us stronger. This is not true at all. Rather this is the conditioning that has been passed on through the generations. It is wise not to make an issue every time that we trip. But the major falls need to be acknowledged, the term ‘major’ being absolutely subjective. 

If someone experiences an unfortunate incident, it may leave behind invisible scars which may need time and compassion to heal fully. But truth be told, how often the person going through traumatic situations is encouraged to express their pain and sufferings? On the contrary if the person is found to wallow for long, he is  looked down upon for being a weakling. With such immense development of technology and modernisation all around, there is still a lack of safe space for such victims.  It is a major drawback of our society.

The people with unhealed wounds are quite easy to identify if we pay a little attention. If a person is smiling more than what is normal or being over-cheerful, the person is surely traumatised. The excess of smiles and cheer is often to hide the deep rooted pain the person is  suffering from. They are constantly conscious of their pain but do not feel confident enough  to share it openly for the fear of being judged. If at all they do gather enough courage to open up to someone and by chance they do not receive compassion from them, it is enough for them to shut themselves up completely.

Another trait of someone carrying deep scars within are the people who talk faster than normal. Again, it is their miserable attempt at covering up their sufferings by trying hard to blend in and pretending that they are alright. They may surely talk a lot but they hardly communicate. They may feel that no one would be interested in knowing their sad story as they are not significant enough to anyone; even if others come to know of their sad story, they will start to see them differently.

People nurturing deep wounds or suffering from such may also try to get noticed as little as possible. It may be a burden for them to interact with people around. It becomes their tendency to withdraw from everyone and everything around them. Such people suffer from low self-esteem and lack of confidence as well.

These are just a few symptoms of scarred people. There are way too many, if we become a little mindful. If we look around us, we will find such victims a dime a dozen. It is very sad and unfortunate that such people are not met with adequate sympathy and compassion which can ease their sufferings. Instead of holding biases towards people suffering from mental and emotional wounds, they should be made to feel safe and cared for enough so that they can open up. Any wound kept covered for long and not tended to can become septic as it is common knowledge, why do we treat emotional wounds any differently?

More often than not, the victims are told that the unfortunate incident is not much to talk about as it has not killed them yet. It does not mean at all that the incident has not wounded them just because they are physically alive.  What is visible can be tended to till it is cured, but what about the wounds not visible externally? They surely need extra care. These are very delicate issues and should be handled like such.

The writer goes by the name of Ami Sedani and is an Astro numerologist and Tarot Reder.