How to deal with the fear
This column is contributed by Nizam Thonduru
GrowthBeats
"Each of us must confront our own fears, must come face to face with them. How we handle our fears will determine where we go with the rest of our lives. To experience adventure or to be limited by the fear of it."
--Judy Blume
Nature has not given us any emotion unnecessarily. Behind every emotion, there is a purpose. It all depends on how we are able to regulate our emotions.
Fear gets to the best of us, whether it is fear of failure, fear of success or even fear of fear. All of us have experienced fear at some point in our lives and it can be a real stumbling block that holds us back from being truly successful.
If we observe from the primitive man’s perspective, fear was most essential to be alert from wild animals.
When this fear takes over beyond certain point, then you can go through the below given process
- Perception is different from reality
This is the crucial step when it comes to dealing with the fear. Get your facts checked compared to emotions.
- Know your triggers
List out the situations that are frequently triggering you. Observation of these events helps you to identify the pattern.
- Listen to your body
Our body is always communicating to us constantly. We need to listen to it. Paying attention to our body we can notice where all we are experiencing discomfort. Physical stretches help to relax our muscles.
- Make gratitude a way of life
No matter what the situation is, there are so many things in our lives to be grateful. Counting our blessings is a great way of living.
- Be aware self talk
Our internal conversation matters a lot. What we communicate with ourselves needs to be monitored.
- This too shall pass away
Always remember that no situation is permanent. Keep reminding yourself that this too shall pass away.
- 7. Your perception matters
No situation is positive or negative. How we view a specific situation depends on our perception.
- 8. Rhythmic breathing
Emotions and breath are directly proportionate. When breathing is regulated, emotions settle down.
- Finding your space safe
Identify the place that you feel safe. Spending little more time in such places helps to feel safe and secure. Also find out the people whom you feel comfortable to share your thoughts and emotions.
About Author
Nizam Thonduru is a certified international life coach, EFT master trainer, clinical hypnotherapist and a counselling psychologist who conducts several online and live trainings. With a strong experience of 10 years, Nizam has been instrumental in training and coaching people from over ten countries, across various fields including Software and IT, Medical, Psychology, Counselling, Sports, Business, and Yoga.
